Tuesday, December 29, 2015

My Past Life Regression Session

Before I begin I want to state that everything I examine and investigate on the topic of life after death is for the purpose of finding proof that there is life after death or finding proof that there is not.  This posting is all about regression therapy which is recalling a past life while under hypnosis.  I have not found convincing evidence to prove that it is possible to recall a past life because there is nothing to prove that it is true, but I continue on my journey trying to learn more about it until I satisfy my curiosity.  It goes without saying that when I speak of my past life regression session and past life recalls it is all alleged and not validated.  

I was still under hypnosis with my regression guide Rhonda Leifheit in the drivers seat.  I was looking for answers to a few questions that my past life might reveal about my current life.  As I regressed from a life I once lived in the 1920's as an aspiring singer I was taken back into a light as I descended.  This is where we left off: 

These were questions I was seeking answers to from the beginning.  I wanted to know if there was a connection between me and my mother, grandmother and husband. I also wanted to know what happened to the soul of my unborn child.  I did not get the answers I anticipated and was shocked at the results.  I knew this much, if the answers were premeditated or of power of suggestion I certainly would not have gotten the answers that I did. 

The light was of peace and calm and apparently where answers could be found while still under hypnosis. These were questions I was supposed to be able to answer, for myself.  As I listened to her voice the questions the answers rolled off of my tongue.  I did not have time to think about the answers.  It was as if I knew the answers before the questions were asked.  They say that right before we are born the angel touches our upper lip and we forget everything and when we die we know everything there is to know. Having been the one giving the answers I was surprised by them.  

Question 1:  Who in this past life is in your current life?
The only person in my past life that I was able to identify in this life was my father.  My father in this life shared my former 1920's life as my manager/agent.  I found this amusing considering I had not questioned a past life with my father but with my husband, mother and grandmother.  The agent in my past life reminded me of my father in this life but they looked nothing alike. Could it be that when Rhonda suggested I find my father from this life to comfort me from my fear of heights into the spirit world that I actually sought and found my father in a past life?  Meaning that my father in this life and the agent/manager in the past life were the same soul.  Could it be that in the spirit world we are connected and have lived many lives together where this soul has acted as protector and caretaker to my soul?  It makes perfect sense if I take into account  many of the research studies I found in the countless books I have read.  There is too much to explain but in a nutshell our souls have soul mates that are not necessarily lovers but are friends, siblings, parents, as well as lovers and our souls choose to repeatedly live lives on Earth with each other but in different capacities.  When we are "dead" or in the spirit world we know our soul mates well but when we are born into an earthly life and forget everything we knew in the spirit world sometimes we are so connected to someone that one can only suspect that they are somehow spiritually connected and in most cases they are.   I am sure you have heard of deja-vu when you have an experience for the first time that you feel you have experienced before.  This includes people you feel you know but no matter how hard and long you think of how you know one another the dots do not connect for either of you.....in this life.  This is a very good example of what a spiritual connection is.  You (your spirit or soul) recognizes someone in this life that you can only know in the spirit world.  I don't want to digress too much but this is where things get interesting.  Our body is occupied by our spirit or conscious state of mind.  Our brain connects our body with our spirit that it's really hard to distinguish the two.  This is possible through meditation where you can separate your spirit from your body.  While our spirit sits behind our eyes and manages our personality and consciousness it does not die with our body.  In fact, when we die there is no shift in the way we consciously feel as our spirit rises out of our body.  Several people who have experienced out of body and near death have stated that even though "they" were looking down at their own bodies they felt as if they were still attached to their body until they realized they were apart and only describe the feeling as FREEDOM.  Free from any illness that may have caused them disabled.  I can go on and on but I will save this for another time.

During my regression session I did not recover any relationships with the people I wanted to connect with the most.  My mother in this life and I are extremely close.  There is not a day that goes by when we pick up the telephone to call each other at the exact time and our lines are busy because she was calling me and I was calling her and the weird part about it is that I know why her line is busy and that she is calling me.  Also, sometimes when she calls me I was thinking of calling her at that very moment and she claims the same of me calling her.  I know I am connected to my mother in the spirit world and that perhaps our connection on earth is somehow driven by our connection in spirit.  We are in sync.

My grandmother and I were extremely close.  She called me her best friend.  I was always close to her especially after my grandfather died in 2000.  I was by her side daily while she lay in a nursing home bed unable to care for herself.  She depended on her family to take care of her needs that the nursing home could or would not.  It was then that I started reading about life after death and learned about death bed visions which explained what was happening when I caught my grandmother speaking to someone that I could not see.  I detailed my visits and earlier research in my Nursing Home Drama blog.  I feel that my grandmother and I once lived a life where I was her mother.  In fact, in this life I am named after her parents.  And, perhaps we too are soul sisters. 

 Question 2:  Is the soul of your unborn child in any way connected to either of your children in this life?

Surprisingly I said "my unborn child did not yet have a soul" so, no, there is no connection.  What?  I never imagined this as a possibility but I have read that the spirit (a branch of the soul) typically enters the body of a fetus in or around the fifth month in the womb.  If you ask any mother who has lost a fetus or unborn child for any reason whether a miscarriage or abortion she might admit that she wonders about the development of the spirit of her unborn baby and question when the conscious life began for that child.  There is no proof but researchers have suggested that a spirit that enter a fetus or unborn baby that is miscarried or aborted was aware that this would take place and that their life lesson was to see what it was like to enter a human form.  This may have been the case for new souls.  And, research studies show a spirit will sometimes be reborn into the same family especially after the loss of a young child.  This may seem complicated so if you want better clarification I suggest reading the book Return To Life by Jim B. Tucker, M.D.  This book is about research on reincarnation that Dr. Tucker and Dr. Ian Stephenson gathered from around the world.  The stories in this book are amazing and enough to make a believer out of a skeptic.  This is one of many books that document the investigations from a skeptics point of view.  Doctors and a team of investigators treated each case with doubt.  Their efforts were to discount the cases of reincarnation as young children remembered their past lives with detailed information including their home address, the layout of the home they lived in, names of family members, and more.  The investigators took the children independently to the address they recalled from a past life, had the child name each family member they recalled and their relationship to them in their past life.  The investigators often tried to trick the child by suggesting a family member with a wrong name but in every case the children would correct them with the correct name.  In all cases the families had lost a loved one the way the child recalled and confirmed everything the young child claimed.  The puzzling fact is the young subjects in this book were three to five years of age, most could not read, and have never been to the areas where they claimed to have lived their past lives.  The distance could have been as far as 200 miles away from their current homes yet they knew the address and demonstrated familiarity with the vicinity they claimed to have once occupied.  It's the perfect book for the skeptic.  

With my questions answered I was satisfied with this session.  I walked away wondering if I had really lived this life as an aspiring singer in the 20's or made it up without knowing I was making it up.  I felt exhausted as though I had been doing physical work but I had only been lying on a recliner for an hour.  I went home after my session and did some online research hoping to find something about a once cigarette girl turned singer somewhere in France in the 20's but I did not find anything.  I did, however, find a (black and white) picture of a cigarette girl that resembled the one in my session.  I had never seen the picture before.  

Believing in life after death really has nothing to do with past life regression or the ability to recall a past life.  While we live multiple lives, thousands of them, we may or may not be able to recall the lives through past life regression or meditation.  There are books giving detailed steps as to how one can recall a past life but how do you know whether or not what you recall as a past life is really true?  

The next session was a few weeks later.  My reader, Rhonda, took herself into the Akashic Records searching my past lives.  I had more doubts about this reading.  To be continued.......

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Thursday, October 15, 2015

Can A PI prove or disprove there is life after death? The PI Files

Rhonda Leifheit was guiding me into a hypnotic state of mind in order to experience past life regression.  I wanted to know who I was and what happened to me in a past life, if at all possible, that according to psychics, mediums, and many doctors of Psychology believe we all have.  I was putting it to the test as author and former Private Investigator Bob Olson suggested in his book Answers About the Afterlife .   It is something I know little about so I don't know at this point whether I believe it is possible to recall a past life.  I do, however, believe in reincarnation and that we have lived and will live many more lives and that each life there is a lesson to be learned.  The more we learn the closer we get to God.  As I continue to investigate I wanted to experience hypnosis and past life regression in two phases.  The first phase is to be put under hypnosis by a Past Life Regression Reader and the second phase was to have the reader go under hypnosis and give me a reading of my past life through Akashic Records.  Akashic Records have many meanings but to someone like me and you it means "memory bank" of our past lives.  You give your name and date of birth to the reader and they are supposed to be able to get into your personal records in the Akashic zone.  During the first phase of my reading I was being guided into meditation and into a state of deep hypnosis.

As "I" had been lifted out of my body and into the sky towards a light I began to feel hot as if I was burning up.  I doubt this was the reaction my past life regression reader and guide was expecting as her calming voice guided me towards a light as she described as warm and full of love, but she had no idea that I was afraid of heights.   Once there she suggested I seek comfort from my father, who passed away ten years ago in the early morning of Halloween, and look for him in the light, however, before I was able to find him it was suggested that I find a way to cool my body down in perhaps a cold rain shower or with a cold drink but I sought a ground covered in snow as I lay my body down to make snow angels as suggested by my guide.  Once cooled off I wanted to find my father, and became emotional for a moment but I was quickly guided to a long hallway where at the end I would find a door.  I stood by the door with a blank mind waiting for the next direction.  "Open the door" my guide asked  "what do you see?"

I slowly opened the big wooden brown door and the scene reminded me of when Dorothy opened the door to the Emerald City, and the first thing I saw was the color of dark silky red and a woman standing with her side to me.  She had the profile of a young slender woman with short dark hair and a band with a feather in her hair.  She had on a dark red tight dress that came down to right above her knees and fishnet stockings covered her long legs  After I described what I saw as if I was talking in my sleep I said, "I don't know if it's me I am looking at or someone else.  I don't know where I am."  I looked around the room to try to get a sense of where I was and guessed "I don't know if it's a brothel or a night club but I am in a dressing room somewhere."  My guide asked me to look down at myself to see what I was wearing.  "I am wearing fishnet stockings.  I am looking at myself in the mirror. The woman I see is me."   I said out loud, "I don't know if I am a prostitute or a lounge worker."  I was about to find out.  Rhonda said, " step through the next door to see where you are."  I opened the next door and I saw myself standing among a crowd of people shuffling past me as if they had somewhere to go.  I had a cigarette cart hanging down from my neck.  I am a cigarette girl in a night club and I am an aspiring singer trying to get on that (I pointed to the left) stage.  I am very focused on my career.  I see a man with a long mustache walking by otherwise everyone else looks blurry.  Nobody else stands out.  But, I don't know who this man is."  

 The best way to describe how I was feeling during this process is comparable to that while in meditation.  I can hear Rhonda's voice but when I respond to her questions I know what I am thinking in an effort to speak but I have no idea how I sound.  Listening back later to my voice I sounded as if I was talking in my sleep.  As I lay on the recliner every now and then I would consciously remind myself that I was still in my body and try to get a sense of how my body felt.  It felt tight and numb.  But, I would not feel my body unless I thought about it or focused in that direction. 

Rhonda took me a few years ahead of my days as a cigarette girl and I saw myself sitting in a small apartment.  It was just me.  It was quiet.  I had no friends.  I was completely focused on a singing career.  I was quickly whisked away from this scene.  Rhonda wanted to take me back to my childhood.

I went back into the childhood of the life I was viewing and I saw a little girl with short brown hair and bangs wearing a short white dress with small blue flowers sitting on the floor holding a doll in her hand.  The room was white as if I was in a kitchen or perhaps the white was symbolic for clean and spotless with a double meaning that my life was pure and boring as there were no other toys in sight and I felt as if I only had one toy to play with.  There was an attractive young woman sitting in a chair doing something with her hands.  I couldn't quite see what she was doing but I guessed she was knitting or something. My viewpoint was from that of a five year old girl sitting on the floor.  I sensed the woman was a mother figure in my life and was very firm and cold towards me.  I did not feel the love.  The next scene involved a piano but I wasn't sure what was happening.  I assumed I was taking piano lessons or something of that nature because I was standing next to it or maybe I was taking singing lessons.  The scene was unclear.  In my current life I never took piano lessons but taught myself how to play a song or two.  I never took to one instrument but had had lessons in guitar, violin, and flute and although I am no Madonna I love to sing for fun.  At this point Rhonda asked me to move on into my adult life.  The first thing I felt was myself and an unidentified man who was holding my arm guiding me through a crowded room and my viewpoint was as if I was shuffling through a crowd.  I realized that I was a headliner at a nightclub and the man on my arm was my agent/manager escorting me through the crowd of people to the backstage area.  I was trying to figure out my name and listened to the crowd but I did not hear it.  Rhonda suggested I look for a sign but there was none.  I was inside a building in a lobby area walking toward the stage to perform as a singer and that is as far as I got when Rhonda took me to my death in the life that I was seeing.  I would soon learn how and at what age I was when I allegedly died in my life as a cigarette girl turned singer.    I was nervous to take that next step but after all it was something that had already occurred so I took the leap and went to the next phase of my life.  Rhonda guided me to the time of my death and a scene immediately came to me as if a veil was lifted off of a picture in a gallery.  I saw myself lying in a hospital bed but this time my viewpoint was different than it had been.  It's as if I was watching it happen to someone else in a movie.  A man by my side was holding my hand but he was not a lover or a friend but more of a fatherly figure as I felt the bond that I shared with him.  He was my agent and cared for me as a father cared for a daughter.  He didn't speak much but took good care of me.  I felt safe with him.  He was older than me and had dark hair and a mustache that curled at the ends and he always looked so debonair.   I was weak, coughing and hot to the touch.  I clearly had an infection that was killing me because this was the death scene of this lifetime.  I died when I was in my mid to late 30's.  It was a peaceful death as I felt it occur.  I didn't feel any different except that I was no longer occupying the body that lay on the hospital bed.  The man that took care of me all those years was sad but maintained his composure as if he knew it was my time to go.  My guide led me back to the light and the spirit world where she asked me some questions.  1. who in that life is connected to me in my current life? 2. is the soul of my unborn child connected to either of my living children in my current life? 

These were questions I was seeking answers to from the beginning.  I wanted to know if there was a connection between me and my mother, grandmother and husband. I also wanted to know what happened to the soul of my unborn child.  I did not get the answers I anticipated and was shocked at the results.  I knew this much, if the answers were premeditated or of power of suggestion I certainly would not have gotten the answers that I did.  To be continued............................

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Sunday, September 20, 2015

Can A Private Investigation Unlock The Mysteries of Life After Death?......My Past Life Regression Experiment....The PI Files


Friday, September 18, 2015

I was preparing to be hypnotized by Rhonda Leifheit, a seasoned Past-Life Regression Therapist certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists, who with years of training and experience puts people under hypnosis and guides them into past lives while also passing through spirit where our souls live one with God. My curiosity of past life regression began after reading the book Answers About The Afterlife written by Bob Olson who was a Private Investigator who spent 15 years researching life after death with claims to have unlocked the mysteries.  I was excited to learn that a PI with natural skepticism such as myself shared this common interest and had possibly found evidence to support his findings.  My interest in life after death began a few years ago when my grandmother, who I was very close to, was near death.  I began reading books on the subject as I sat in a chair next to my dying grandmother who was confined to a nursing home bed.   More recently I hired a self proclaimed psychic medium who was less than authentic in my opinion.  The only statements she made that I could relate to were few and very generalized and while I wanted to connect with deceased loved ones she was unable to identify anybody she claimed to have connected with nor was I able to identify them using the information she gave. I was looking for very specific words and statements to be used in order to prove to me that she was an authentic Psychic Medium.  I will talk more about this experience another time. I only recently read Bob Olson's book which is a question and answer book with answers to some of the most common questions about death such as "how can I tell if a psychic medium is real or fake?", "is death scary, painful, dark?"  and "can my loved one in spirit hear me when I talk or pray to him/her?"  These are only a few of the many questions answered in his book and while I am interested in the answers from Bob Olson's perspective while reading this book I was also looking for the background to his answers for instance whom did he interview, how was the interview conducted, what is the background of the people of which he relied on.  Had there been background to support his answers I would be less skeptical of his investigation and how it was conducted besides not knowing Bob Olson himself.  Is a reader picking up this book before any other on this topic supposed to simply believe what he 'says'?  I decided to have my own life regression experience for myself as Bob Olson did discussed in Part 9 of his book.  As an Investigator I feel it is as equally important to provide the right answers along with the information that led to the answers in order to build credibility with the readers.  I was disappointed that there was no such information included in the book that has incredible answers some of which I have read about in other books where the authors do provide more background information to their findings.  So, while Bob Olson might provide realistic answers in his book he does not provide the background and how he reached his answers.  I know his investigation included reading other books.  With that said,  I have provided the name of the regression therapist I have chosen to use. Her background can be viewed on her website.  

Before my appointment I felt anxious and excited because of the new experience I was about to have.  I felt confident that I would have no trouble being hypnotized because it is simply meditating under somebody else's direction and I have successfully meditated on many occasions on my own and with the power of suggestion given to me by my meditation teacher Tom Pasley where all five senses came alive. For example going to the beach and feeling the sand underneath your bare feet, smelling the ocean breeze as it brushes over your head, tasting the salt that the ocean emits into the air, and hearing the waves.  You can visit the beach in meditation and it is the next best thing to being there.  My anxiety came from the unexpected and not knowing what I would see or feel if I would even make it that far.  I also had many questions that I had hoped could be answered such as the connections I may have had in past lives with my mother, grandmother, and husband from my current life and the possibility of my unborn child reincarnating into one of my living children.  My ultimate quest was to learn the truth about life after death and if the process I was about to encounter is a real way to find answers to our past lives assuming my first answer is affirmed.  On my way to the appointment my nerves went out the car window while I found the street I needed to turn onto was closed!  I thought to myself, "how in the hell am I going to get there if her street is closed?  I need to arrive there on time!  I need to calm down otherwise I will be too worked up going into the session."  I did arrive there and on time and my anxiety did not return.  Sometimes we need a diversion from tension and sometimes it comes when it is needed the most.

I was invited into her home office where I saw a desk in the front hallway by the door.  She took me into her living room where there were two chairs and a small table with two glasses of water.  Next to the table was the main part of the living room with a large futon sofa and a recliner chair.  She first invited me to sit on a chair at the table where we would talk and get to know each other for the first part of my session time of one and a half hours.  I had read her website so I knew just about everything there was to know about her as a regression therapist and my questions were related to my session of hypnosis and the content of what I might learn and how she would guide me through it.  As I sipped on my water she asked me specifically about my interest in past-life regression and what I was hoping to get out of it.  I told her that I had been interested in life after death since my grandmother was dying but my interest of past lives came after reading Bob Olson's book whom she had never heard of.  She was familiar with the books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls both written by Dr. Michael Newton and knows someone who studied with him.  That alone was impressive to me considering I had read both books and found Dr. Michael Newton to be a credible Psychologist and a certified Master Hypnotherapist with a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology. Rhonda Leifheit was referred to me by a friend who holds a Masters degree in Teaching and Music who had a reading with Rhonda along with a friend of hers, also a Teacher.  The two friends did not have a reading together and were not in the same building during their readings but found through each of their past life regression sessions and in their own words, conducted on the same day, an experience they had with each other in a past life.  Again, they spoke of the same experience with each other while under hypnosis. This information was not shared with them until both sessions ended.  How bizarre is that?  Dr. Michael Newton had a few clients in the recent past who experienced similar situations.  I recall a story where two people who met on an online dating service and felt a strong connection before they ever met had a past life regression session with Dr. Newton on the day they first met and in fact met at his office for the first time after having spent hours talking on the phone.  They wanted to find out if there was a past life connection with one another because they felt so connected.  They both spoke, while through hypnosis and in their own words, about the exact same story of how they had dated in a past life at the age of sixteen and seventeen and were in a car accident together near the Pacific ocean coast in California.  The boy died at the scene.  You can't make these things up!  Dr. Newton is just one of many doctors who has written about life after death. After discussing my desire of knowing Rhonda explained the process of how she would hypnotize me and guide me through my journey.  I was eager to get started and went into it with an open mind yet made her aware of my skepticism going in.  She advised me that many people have asked the question of how would one know if they were making things up as they go, but she assured me that it may not be made up but a real memory from a past life.   I asked her if my talking about everything with her before hypnosis can in any way suggest as in "power of suggestion" and she replied that it will not. Then we were ready to begin.

Rhonda invited me to sit in the recliner and as she closed all of the blinds that allowed light into the room I was busy getting comfortable. She sat in a chair caddy-corner to me on the right side.  There was a blue pillow on the recliner that I rested my left arm on.  I reclined the seat and turned on my phone recorder and layed it on a t.v. tray in between us.  She did the same with hers.  She told me ahead of time that I would most likely remember everything but just in case I would have a recording of our session.  The session began with my breathing and the focus of my breaths, eyes closed, and comfort level high.  As I started the breathing pattern I opened my eyes for a brief second to make an adjustment and noticed Rhonda had also closed her eyes and followed her own lead.  It felt as if we were going under hypnosis together as student and teacher. So, this is how they do it!  Focusing on my breathing and Rhonda's voice were my two tasks.  I became more relaxed as Rhonda counted from one to twenty with my head becoming lighter, all of the tension leaving my body from head to toe, and the white light that was virtually cleansing my body was lifting me up and out.  At some point she asked me to think of the happiest most relaxed place I had ever been.  I described as I was sitting on an outdoor recliner chair on the balcony of an apartment in the heart of Jerusalem.  The weather was perfect, not too hot and not too cold, and the air was fresh and peaceful.  It is a feeling of serenity you can't explain.  As Rhonda guided me up and out of my body and into the sky slowly leaving the earth in my mind I was seeing the earth getting smaller and smaller as I could feel my heart beating harder and harder and my body felt tight as if it was burning.  In my mind I was panicking but I did not verbalize it the way I was feeling it.  When Rhonda guided me to spirit (the spirit world or heaven) she asked me how I felt.  I said, "I feel like I am burning up.  I am afraid of heights!"  After the fact it reminded me of the time in my youth I allegedly hypnotized a girl who was afraid of dogs and ran for her life.  Was I really under hypnosis?  Was I in the spirit realm?  

To be continued...................................

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Sunday, September 13, 2015

Can A Private Investigator unlock the mysteries of life after death?..........The PI Files

On the last page of Bob Olson's book Answers About The Afterlife, A Private Investigator's 15-Year Research Unlocks the Mysteries of Life after Death and the host of Afterlifetv.com, page 242, he states "become your own afterlife investigator, gather your own evidence, and then draw your own conclusions."  From the beginning of this book I was hoping to read in more detail about the investigation and resources used to reach the conclusions in order to give more substance to the statements made such as: "we communicate through our thoughts" when answering the question "How do spiritual beings communicate with other spiritual beings?" found on page 102.  And, what about this more controversial subject of "What happens to the soul after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or abortion?"  Mr. Olson concluded in his statements "in both a miscarriage and stillbirth, the soul is in control of this outcome" and "just as with miscarriage or stillbirth, because souls are eternal, the child's soul knows it has infinite possibilities to live life through another baby and possibly through a baby from the same mother.  The soul intending to experience life through that baby is, therefore, completely accepting of the mother's choice to end the pregnancy."  This book is good for someone who is seeking peace of mind due to the loss of a loved one but offers little or no evidence to support the information contained within.  It is also a good book of reference to other books that have been written about these topics.  I enjoyed reading this book but what I seek in my journey includes detailed information about resources used to support the content of the material I view.  In this instance I do not know Bob Olson nor do I know the resources he used to write his book, other than what had already been published in other books, so I cannot automatically believe what he says to be true, however most of what he wrote I have read elsewhere by authors who have provided some form of background to their conclusions and with that I believe many of Mr. Olson's answers but for those who are relying on this book for answers and proof will not be satisfied.  

It is hard to provide evidence when it comes to something you cannot see.  When we seek advice should we believe anybody who offers us an answer especially when it is something we want to hear?  If you answered yes then this blog is not right for you because you may read things that you may not want to read OR maybe you are open minded enough to consider something you have never considered and/or agreed with in the past.  If you have never considered an afterlife in the form of spirit or soul then how could you even consider there is a God?  Let me state it another way.  If you believe in God then you must consider there is something more.  God is something we cannot see, right?  At least not in the form that we would expect that makes it believable enough to know that it is God that we are looking at. We first have to ask ourselves what God means to each of us and what it represents.  If you believe in God then you must consider the possibility there is something other than what we see on earth and in our galaxy as humans.  The common factor that most if not all professionals who have ever written about life after death have agreed and concluded that there is a soul or spirit in all of us that is separate from our body and when "we" die our soul or spirit leaves the dead body and returns to the spirit world.  Therefore, "we" do not die, only our bodies do.  With that said, once you have decided whether or not you believe in a more supreme existence then you will accept the likelihood that people have an ability to connect with spirit in one way or another.  Just because you do not have the ability doesn't mean another person does not.  There are some people who have proven their ability to the world and some claim to have the ability but have never been so lucky to have been given the chance to show it and there are those who claim to have it, have convinced them self they have it, but are unable to prove it because they simply do not have the ability they claim to have. When a psychic medium tells you things about yourself and your life that only you would know would you consider they have a gift of psychic ability?  Once they prove to you they have the gift of psychic ability (and I do not use the word "prove" lightly) and then they give you messages from your deceased loved ones would you believe the messages are real?  This is a form of evidence we cannot see! 

I will be visiting a regression therapist by the name of Rhonda Leifheit in the next few weeks and will seek answers about my past lives and my purpose in this life.  I will not know if I am a believer of this artist until after my session.  I have questions about my spiritual relationship with several people in my life including my husband, mother, grandmother, perpetrator, my children and some friends whom I feel I am connected with on an advanced level.  I will audio record my sessions and document my analysis in this diary.  I am both nervous and excited about this potential and going into it grounded and skeptical.  

I am a skeptical believer, not a doubter and seek answers about spirit with a sensible and practical mind.  I hope you continue on this journey with me if not for anything but to consider the information I provide to help answers to your questions while on your own journey.  This, I believe, is what Bob Olson's intentions were when he shared, in his own way, his book Answers About The Afterlife.  

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Tuesday, September 8, 2015

Can a Private Investigator unlock the mysteries of life after death?.......The PI Files

The question is:  What happens after we die?  I have been seeking answers to this question for several years by reading books from reasonably qualified professionals that have researched through various methods including meditation, psychic readings, channels, and using the deepest state of hypnosis used in regression therapy called the somnambulistic state of mind.  The book I am reading now and have been blogging about lately is called Answers About The Afterlife A Private Investigator's 15-Year Research Unlocks the Mysteries of Life after Death written by Bob Olson who is also the host of AfterlifeTV.com.

I was given this book to read because I am a Private Investigator, a natural born skeptic, and curious about the afterlife as was Bob Olson who wrote this book.  I have so far found this book to be very easy to read and understand even for a beginner who is curious about what may come after life on earth as we know it.  It is a question and answer book to some of the most common questions regarding life after death such as: what determines how and when we die?, when does our spirit leave our body at death?, and is death painful, scary, and dark?  These are just a few of the questions answered by Bob Olson in his book Answers About The Afterlife where he bases his answers on the results of his 15 year investigation.  I was especially interested in reading his book because of the shared skepticism and the mindset of seeking evidence and then drawing to a conclusion based on that evidence while using his skills and resources as a PI.  In my opinion an investigator of any type is much like a scientist who must see to believe, in most cases, and this is no different.  Mr. Olson states that he interviewed many people who have had near death experiences who have seen and witnessed a glimpse of the afterlife.  But, who are these people?  What is their background and are they reliable, and how reliable is the person performing the reading?  These are questions that were not answered in the book but there are many topics I can relate to based on my personal experiences that Mr. Olson writes about including mediums, channels, and psychics.

I think in order to best understand how mediums, channels, and psychics work is to have experienced deep meditation because during deep meditation you feel as if your body separates from your soul or as Mr. Olson explained in his book it is your spirit that inhabits your body and not your soul.  On page 86 of his book he says, "our spirit is that part of our soul that inhabits our human body in order to experience a physical life" and "the soul is forever connected to the spirit".  Better said on page 17 he states "first, there is an ocean, then from that ocean comes the waves.  The ocean is the soul, and the waves are the spirits".  While I have never heard it put quite this way I think it is a good analogy having read a number of books on the subject.  If you ever get to the point where you meditate and experience the feeling of oneness with yourself then you will have a better understanding of how it feels to have an out of body experience and find peace within yourself as well as believe that proven reliable mediums, psychics, and channels have the ability to do what they do.

In order to meditate successfully it is best to find a quiet place where only you control the sounds such as a sound machine or music.  Sitting outside with bird chirping is fine too but not near a highway where the big rigs sound their horns. Outside noises are very distracting when learning how to meditate although once you have mastered it you will learn that you can meditate anywhere without distractions.  I often meditate for fifteen minutes at a time while at the gym during my workouts and have no idea what goes on around me during this time nor am I aware that my feet are moving underneath me and surprisingly my eyes are always open.  There are many ways to meditate but the best way to start out is to learn how to focus.  The best way to do this is to find that quiet space and close your eyes and do some breathing exercises in order to relax your body and mind.  Don't forget to inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth....slowly for a count of three.  Then, relax every part of your body from your head down to your toes one body part at a time including ear lobes, throat, and stomach.  For every body part you relax try to focus on that body part.  Once you have completed this task then try to focus on one thing.  People who try to meditate and fail often blame it on the inability to focus and get distracted by thoughts that may cause them stress like a report that is due or something as simple as a mental grocery list.  Try to focus on a single white light or a black dot that you envision in your mind or maybe can see through your eyelid.  Shut your mind off and focus on looking at the light or dot.  Every time your mind wonders, and it will, just go back to your chosen focus object.  Learning to focus will get you closer to a successful meditation session that can last anywhere from ten to twenty minutes or longer and believe me when I say that ten minutes of meditation can feel like longer than ten minutes.  The deeper you go under and are able to focus the more you will start to feel different as if your mind is not connected to a body.  It takes time and practice to get it right and it is very rewarding especially for people who have a lot of stress in their lives.  Is it possible to meditate if you have a lot of stress?  Absolutely!  It's a temporary break from life, a vacation, and something to look forward to doing especially for those that have a lot of stresses in their lives.

Hypnosis is very similar to meditation.  My teacher of meditation who had the pleasure of meditating with and learned from the Dalai Lama, Tom Pasley, often took his class on a journey through the power of suggestion and it was up to us, the students, to focus on his words and allow ourselves to travel on these journeys.  If you were lucky enough to be on a journey with Tom all of your senses came alive and were able to see, hear, feel, smell and taste all that was suggested while meditating.  Please know that Tom's ability to use the power of suggestion was not the reason for our success but it was his guidance, his voice, and our ability to relax ourselves that allowed us to have these experiences.  The difference between meditation and hypnosis in my opinion, having had done both many times, is that meditation is a self propelled state of mind and hypnosis is when someone else guides you as you meditate. Here is a link for Tom Pasley and his background:   http://www.stlouisqigong.com/St._Louis_Qigong/About_Tom.html.

My definition of a hypnotist is a person who helps someone meditate by the power of suggestion by first taking them through the first few steps of meditation and relaxation.  Then, they guide you to wherever it is you want to go and sometimes where you would never want to go.  When I was a teenager I went to several hypnotist shows and parties where the hypnotist put a group of people on stage and attempted to hypnotize them all at the same time and would test each person by putting a flame from a lighter underneath their hand to see if they follow the power of suggestion by not reacting to the heat from the lighter.  I was the subject of this experiment a few times.  The next step was to have them each do something funny or something that might otherwise cause them embarrassment in order to get a reaction from the audience who paid money to see the show.  I studied the way the hypnotists worked and tried it on some friends and friends of friends one night at a sleepover.  Three girls opted to go under hypnosis and I knew two of the three so I knew nothing about the third girl.  Out of all of the hypnotists that I had seen I combined their different techniques hoping it would relax a person enough to act on my suggestion but wasn't sure if it would work.  It seemed that all three girls were relaxed and in some sort of meditative trance so I proceeded to give them suggestions of things to do that only sixteen year old girls would think of as some of the other girls were watching and helping me give suggestions to those that were allegedly in a meditative state.  Everything was going strong until I told the girl I didn't know that two friendly dogs were approaching her.  Upon that suggestion she started to scream and cry and ran off really to nowhere since the door to the room was closed but she went as far as she could and hugged the wall and would look behind her as if the dogs were following her which got us into trouble because it woke up the parents of the house.  Of course all three girls were still under when the parents found out what we were doing and ordered me to take them out of the trance, as if they actually believed they were under, and asked us to promise to never do it again.  After I went through the exit process of hypnosis the one girl told us that she was afraid of dogs and swore she felt as if two dogs were following her.  We were all shocked by the possibility that my attempt to hypnotize actually worked and as a result scared me to the point that I have never done it since.  All these years later and now that I know more about it I would certainly share what I know in order to help others learn how to relax using the safe methods I have learned from certified trainers.  But, keep in mind what works for one person might not work for somebody else.  Once you learn how to meditate you will find what environment works best for you along with music, a mantra, or silence.

Once you have experienced meditation in the way that I have experienced it you might find it easier to accept the gifts that mediums, psychics, and channels have and that regression therapy in the form of hypnosis might actually work.  Let's go one step further and imagine being in a deep state of hypnosis with a regression therapist who guides you to a past life.  I am about to take this journey for the first time with a regression therapist by the name of Rhonda Leifheit who was recommended to me by a friend who experienced it for herself.  Here is a link to her website: http://www.pathfindnews.com/resources/source.html.  I hope to learn about my purpose in this lifetime and my connections with friends and family that I consider soul mates.  More about this next time.

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Sunday, August 30, 2015

Can a Private Investigator unlock the mysteries of life after death? ..........The PI Files

As I am reading Answers About The Afterlife.......A Private Investigators 15 year research unlocks the mysteries of life after death written by Bob Olson who is also the host of afterlifetv.com I am trying to relate to the subject of this book, that there is a life after death, that according to Mr. Olson is "here to deliver the answers that are based on that evidence from a practical investigator's assessment."   The evidence Mr. Olson is referring to are his personal experiences with mediums, psychics and channels during his 15 year investigation.  As a skeptic I am highly curious to know how an investigator who "draws conclusions based on an examination of the evidence using logic, reason and pragmatism" finds the answers to questions like: what happens after we die, how do our loved ones communicate with us after they die, and what it feels like to be a spiritual being and many more. What I seek are the background to the answers for example who were the mediums who helped him reach his conclusions and claims, their backgrounds and reliability, and how he calculates their reliability.

On page 141 of Answers About The Afterlife Mr. Olson talks about how he determines whether a psychic medium is real or fake and states "fake psychic mediums and scam artists ask a lot of leading questions....fishing around for clues so they can improve their guessing ratio....yet not every medium who asks a lot of questions is a fake".  Another red flag for him is "fake psychic mediums and scam artists present vague, general messages, rather than accurate evidence.  For example "spirit communication should always begin with messages that identify the spirit who is communicating with the psychic medium".  So, basically they should give the name or description or a detailed account of their death what Mr. Olson calls identifying evidence.  I believe, based on my research and experience dealing with a very specific personality disorder often found in criminals it is very possible for good con artists to appear genuine and reliable in this case at least they appear this way to clientele but not so much to those that have experience with genuine mediums.  What matters in my humble opinion is the client whom which receives the reading and their level of desire to connect with spirit and naivete.  

I have personally met several people who claim to have the gift of psychic ability.  My most recent reading was with a medium who calls herself Matina.  #Matina started her reading with me over the phone stating their were two males present who 'said' they wanted to communicate with me and my mother.  She offered no description of them, how they died, or who they were to me in my life.  I offered no information and scheduled an appointment for a reading for the very next day.  At the beginning of the reading she compared herself to Theresa Caputo (The Long Island Medium) and said instead of moving her lips when connecting with spirit as Theresa Caputo does she sometimes stands up and sways her body side to side which is what she did the entire reading.  I was waiting for her to talk about the two males she claimed wanted to communicate with us but there was no mention of them, in fact, she did not identify anybody who she claimed was communicating through her.  We told her throughout the reading that we were unable to associate with anything she was telling us and her response was, "you may not remember it now but later it will come to you and you will be shocked that it relates."  This, in my opinion, is a good way to hold the confidence of the client until long after the reading is over.  Yes, it could be that it would later make sense but none of it did at least not for us.  To this day we are still unable to relate to anything she claimed and in fact she in our opinion was either an unseasoned medium, a fake or perhaps gave us a bad reading and no spirit came through for us.  Comparing her to the others', well, there is no comparison.  We will never know how authentic she is unless we conduct an in depth review with her readings with other people.  On her website she will only publish positive feedback but again we do not know the level of desire to connect with spirit or the naivete of the clients nor do we know what kind of negative feedback there might be.  This is why I am reading Bob Olson's book Answers About The Afterlife because he did a 15 year study into the afterlife that includes in depth interviews and readings between mediums and their client.  Here is a link where you can see Matina in action.  http://khqa.com/news/local/medium-connects-to-the-other-side-for-khqa-anchor?id=1007082
Here is a link to buy the book Answers About The Afterlife by Bob Olson.  www.amazon.com/Answers-about-Afterlife-Investigators-Mysteries/dp/0965601986/

I witnessed readings with Lisa Williams, voted one of the best mediums in the world according to psychic-readings-guide.com and Rebecca Rosen named medium to the stars.  Lisa Williams readings were spot on.  She named the spirits coming through and gave detailed information about the events that occurred leading to their deaths.  Rebecca Rosen was not as accurate during the readings I witnessed.  She named people some of which were identified and some not identified.  Once I was read by a channel who when she spoke to me her voice changed from a female to a male and said some thing that later proved to be true.  She told me that the friend I was with that day had a dark secret he was keeping from me and emphasized on it throughout the reading and I later learned it was true when I found out that there was in deed a secret and the secret was pretty dark meaning something was being hidden from me by my friend.  When I found out what the secret was it was devastating to say the least and was life changing for both of us.  It is hard to know what to believe and what not to believe when it comes to something you cannot see or feel and again I think that the reliability of the person making the claim combined with the level of desire to connect with spirit and client naivete are the ultimate factors that determine the most likely truth.  

On page 129 of Answers About The Afterlife Bob Olson talks about loved ones who are deceased communicating with us in our dreams. My experience was at the age of 26.  I was told by a doctor that I must have inherited a smoking gene, because I smoked, as did my grandparents and parents when I was very young.  They all eventually quit and lived healthy lives except my fathers' father who was not so lucky because he was eventually diagnosed with emphysema, a form of COPD, and suffered through the rest of his life with breathing problems.  He died when I was eleven years old.  I miss him dearly and visit his grave a few times a year. (As I write this now according to Bob Olson's claim my grandfather is aware of what I am writing about him as stated on page 123 "our loved ones in spirit always hear us when we talk or pray to them....but our loved ones in spirit are also aware of when we write a letter or email to them, even if we have no place to send it.....when we talk about them" )   I had a dream but not just any dream.   I felt everything that happened in my dream really happened.  According to Bob Olson this event is called a dream visitation.  He states "the dream is extremely vivid and feels like you are really in the presence of your loved one, which, of course, you are."  In my dream I was visited by my grandfather.  I heard his voice and saw him as if I was physically standing in front of him.  I felt his touch as he put his arms around me and I around him.  The best way to describe what it felt like is what some people refer to as an out of body experience. There was no background in this dream.  No wall colors or furniture. It was just the two of us and nothing more.  It was very strange and something I had never experienced before.  I was just at the beginning of my career in the investigation field and had all of the skepticism in the world.  In this dream my grandfather warned me about the dangers of smoking and reminded me of his health problems as a result.  I heard his voice very distinctly and he was not gasping for breath as he did when he was alive and in fact I sensed he was at peace.  He hugged me and said he loved me which I do not recall having ever heard him say to me when he was alive.  I felt love from him as I had never felt before.  Now, I was in no way interested in life after death or the paranormal at this point in my life.  The thought of these things never crossed my mind except in the form of  haunted houses on Halloween and occasionally a local psychic fair for fun. I knew in my gut something out of the ordinary had happened and I felt so happy and loved.  For several days following this dream it was the only thing I could think of because it stood out among the rest.   In other words it was enough to make me question this dream out of the millions I have had over 50 plus years, so far.  I was afraid to tell anybody because I thought they would discount my claim or think I was crazy.  I knew nothing about dream visitations or spirit at the time.  But, I eventually told my father and he listened and offered no negative response and entertained the thought that it was possible.  It is one of those things you cannot forget and is always in the back of my mind and to this day I remember it very clearly as if it happened yesterday.  It has been over 20 years since the dream and I had always hoped it would happen again but I have never had a dream like it since.  Ironically Bob Olson states on page 128 "those who have experienced a dream visitation say that they remember the details of the dream with great clarity many years later.  They often remember the dream as if they had the dream the prior evening, even if the dream visitation was 20 years earlier".  Having had this occur I truly believe what happened was real, therefore I am open to the possibility that there is much much more that humans are unable to comprehend and there is a spirit in all of us that lives on after our bodies die.  It wasn't until I started reading up on life after death, near death experiences, and out of body experiences a few years ago and that my claim of having a visitation with my grandfather was more than likely. 

In conclusion I decided to test a theory that our loved ones have the ability to communicate with us after they die. Mr. Olson claims based on his investigation on page 123 "our loved ones in spirit always hear us when we talk or pray to them"  and page 125 the claim is "you can communicate with your loved ones in spirit at any time".  I made a verbal request to my father who passed away ten year ago how I would like him to give me a sign that he is with me, can hear me, and is at peace.  I was very specific that the sign be obvious enough for me to believe because of my skepticism.  I would have expected to have found a picture of him in a drawer when I opened it or received a phone call from my mother telling me that something odd happened that reminded her of my dad.  What did happen right after my request was this: I was looking for some perfume samples in a drawer because the perfume bottle I used regularly was empty so when I opened the drawer and reached in for a small perfume sample something subconsciously told me to pick the one that was underneath another bottle.  I put some perfume on and then something subconsciously told me to look at the bottle and read the name on the label which is something I would not normally do.  The name on the label read MIRACLE.  Now, I immediately thought this was just a coincidence, but wait, there is no such thing.  Was this a message from my father? I mean, the writing was 'on the wall' or in this case on the small perfume sample.  So, I asked my friend to request the same from her father who died many years ago and who is not yet a believer in the afterlife.  She will let me know when and if she feels she has received a message from her father. 

I cannot leave you with one story so here is another one that tops the last.  Mr. Olson states on page 127 "there is nothing wrong with asking for assistance from people in spirit, including requesting help to find your lost keys".  And, "you're only going to find your keys if and when you are meant to find them".  A few years ago I was searching for some important papers that I needed for a court hearing the next day and I knew I had them somewhere but couldn't remember where so I searched everywhere in my office and home without success.  I turned to my spirit guides and asked them to please guide me to the file that contained these important papers.  I was desperate.   So, the very moment after I prayed I received a message in my head that told me to go back to a box I had already searched in but to dig deep.  The key words that stuck out to me were 'dig deep'.  I did not hear a voice but a thought that I knew was not coming from myself.  I went back to the box, stuck my hand deep underneath all the crap on the top and pulled out a big brown envelop without really knowing what I was holding onto.  Inside the big brown envelope were the papers that I desperately needed for court the next day.  If that is not prayer being answered I don't know what is.  I had already searched the box and would not have given a second thought to do it again had I not had this bizarre message in my head telling me to go back and 'dig deep'.  

Remember, I am the biggest skeptic I know and am considered very realistic and down to earth.  I mean, you can't make these things up.   For now my eyes, ears and mind remain open for any communication from spirit.

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Sunday, August 23, 2015

Can a Private Investigator unlock the mysteries of life after death?................The PI Files

I left my patient at the assisted living facility with major feelings of unbelievable emotions that made me take one of the biggest deepest breaths and sigh of relief.

I did not realize, until I began reading #Answers Of The Afterlife written by #Bob Olson that he retired from his everyday private investigation job to dedicate his full attention to his book and his investigation looking for evidence or proof that there is an afterlife.  In 1999 his 15 year quest began after the loss of his father whom he was close to from what I gathered.  I can relate to this because it was during the end of my grandmothers' life when I began reading books and searching for answers myself.  I documented my grandmothers' behavior in my Nursing Home Drama blog series a few years ago,  here is the link, http://nursinghomedrama.blogspot.com/  There are many examples of what I believe were deathbed visions that Mr. Olson speaks of in his book on page 7 in Answers About The Afterlife.  I video recorded some of her activities that I suspect could have been death bed visions but in order to know what I am talking about you would have to see the tapes.  I detailed the events in the Nursing Home Drama blog and can be viewed at the link mentioned above.

I want to first remark about something I found interesting on page 2 where he states "I'm an investigator who draws conclusions based on an examination of the evidence using logic, reason, and pragmatism". And then he goes on to say, "I begin my investigation without bias or expectation and draw conclusions only after gathering and examining the available evidence.  In other words, I look at the evidence first and draw my conclusions second."  This is the typical thought process of an investigator including myself.  Reading this made me feel that I was on the same page in thought process that he was when he began his investigation.  I am in that thought process now as I read his book, therefore his investigation is of great interest to me because I feel I could trust his opinion simply based on his mindset going into his investigation and maybe his investigation results could answer my questions and put my mind at ease.  I don't necessarily want to conduct my own in depth investigation but I enjoy reading others' research and appreciate the time and effort it takes to document it for readers such as myself.

On the same page, 2, my concern began with the statement  "this book is not about documenting all the evidence and explaining it; rather, this book is about answering the most common questions people have about the afterlife-based on that evidence" and "since plenty of books already hash over all the evidence from either a scientific or metaphysical standpoint, this book is here to deliver the answers that are based on that evidence from a practical investigator's assessment."  I could understand this if the author knew his audience had read other books about this topic containing scientific or metaphysical research but for someone who is picking up his book before any other to learn about this topic I would imagine they would want to know how he drew to his conclusions and answers because from what I have read so far this is an answer and question book and offers very little evidence, proof, or background to the questions.   It is my assumption that somewhere in the book Mr. Olson talks about the tools he used, how he used them, and give details about the sources from where the information came.  I feel in order to gain the confidence of your readers you must document your evidence to support your claim and explain it especially if you are writing about something so controversial.  BUT I am only at page 100 and not even half way through the book so there is still plenty of time for my curiosity and concern to be satisfied and put to rest AND I intend to read this book twice if not three times in case I missed something the first time.  Needless to say it's general practice for a professional to review and re-review material in order to be well educated about the topic and consistently accurate about their conclusions.  
99% of what I have read in this book so far I have read in other books on the market or have heard on t.v.

Now I would like to focus on page 94 and the word COINCIDENCE.  Here is where I will talk about what happened with my patient that is directly related to this word in more than one way.  I was at the gym doing my daily workout routine first on the treadmill and then on the Crossramp where I sweat it out.  I have to admit that this book is very well written and hard to put down so I decided to walk and not run on the treadmill in order to continue reading at least for the next half hour.  One of the last pages I read was 94 where Mr. Olson talks about ways a spirit guide communicates with us.  A spirit guide as Mr. Olson puts it (on page 89) "is a spirit (on the spiritual plane) who guides a spirit having a human experience (on the physical plane).  In simpler words, a spirit guide is a spiritual being who is guiding a human being."  If this is not simple enough I will simplify it even more.  Have you ever heard of the term guardian angel?  Although a guardian angel realistically, to some at least, might be more or less than a spirit guide, but I think can be better understood because more people are probably familiar with this term. So, in terms of understanding the point I am making spirit guide=guardian angel.  Let's move on.  

#COINCIDENCE according to Mr. Olson in Answers About The Afterlife on page 94 is a way our spirit guides communicate to us and guide us.  He says "some call this divine coincidence or synchronicity.  Unfortunately, many people erroneously use the word 'coincidence' to mean luck, fluke, or chance, which is kind of shortsightedness that will lead one to overlook valuable guidance from their spirit guides."  Have you ever heard anybody say they do not believe in coincidences?  I say it all the time because in my opinion luck, a fluke or chance only happens when you win the lottery.  I am in agreement with Mr. Olson and have what I think is a perfect example of his definition of coincidence that happened on Friday, twice!  The first coincidence happened when I read about this while at the gym.  Let me explain.  I am reading this book to learn in my own search for answers about the afterlife.  Because of the shared skepticism and thought process that Mr. Olson and I share I take great interest in his investigation and information he offers.  I feel the first coincidence or meant to be moment was for me to have read page 94 Friday morning because of what happened next.

I am a PI by day and in my spare time I visit hospice patients to give comfort in the last days of their lives.  I gained a lot of experience when my grandmother was in the nursing home, my father who passed away ten years ago from pancreatic cancer, and my father n law who only recently passed away.  My schedule is normally very full on a daily basis between work, the kids, and life but I found some time today, later than normal, to visit my elderly patient who lives in an assisted living community.  Normally when I visit her the apartment door is wide open and she sits in her wheelchair or recliner in her living room.  But, when I walked in to her apartment I heard her crying out for help and when I followed her voice into her bedroom I found her lying on the floor next to her bed with her head between the bed and her nightstand with her shoes having broken the fall from her head hitting the hard floor.  I immediately pulled the emergency cord and assured her someone would be there to help her get up as I am not allowed to assist in walking, adjusting, or anything of that nature as a hospice volunteer.  But, when nobody came I ran down the hallway to flag someone down and happened to run into the nurses aid room as a man walked out and in fact we were in the elevator at the same time when we arrived.  This man heard me mention the room number I needed help in and it turned out he was the Chaplain for the hospice organization I volunteer for.  Now, you have to know that this was the Chaplains first visit to this patient because of the directives from the family and was a 'meant to be moment' for him to have visited this patient on this day and at the hour he did.  Together we gave our patient compassion and spiritual comfort until the aids came to help get her off of the floor.  As she was being lifted off the floor to her bed we noticed a big gash on her forehead where she had hit her head most likely on the nightstand.  Nobody knows how long she had been lying there calling for help and how much longer she would have been lying there if we had not shown up.  This is what I think Mr. Olson was talking about in this section of the book on COINCIDENCE.  I call it "meant to be".  In this case coincidence=meant to be and happened for a reason.  

The first coincidence or meant to be moment was my reading about this topic while at the gym that morning and the second was an actual event that took place showing me an example of what I read by visiting my patient at the moment I did along with the Chaplain.  There were things I was able to offer our patient that the Chaplain wasn't and vice versa for example our patient knew me from having visited her many times before as well as my familiarity with her likes and dislikes whereas the Chaplain was able to offer spiritual guidance for both of us as well as a helping hand to get the ball rolling with our hospice team and get our patient the help she needed and more.   I believe we were meant to be there at the same time.  It was a bonus because during our two hour wait for the rest of the hospice team to arrive I had a very rewarding conversation with the Chaplin about religion, faith, and spirituality among just getting to know each other as two professionals who work for the same team.  Thank goodness my patient was doing well when I left.  I will follow up with her next week.

Then, the next day when I went to services at the House of God my religious leader spoke about.......drum role please.........COINCIDENCE and how it does not exist and that things happen for a reason.  Wow!!!!  What a week!  I was surrounded by goodness and love.  I felt this lesson was very well taught.

Until next time...........be safe.

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Saturday, August 15, 2015

Can A Private Investigator Prove Life After Death?

As a skeptic by nature I believe what I see and question what I can't and this is why, along with my problem solving skills, my calling in life, at least the first half of my life, was to be an investigator.  I have to believe it because that is where I ended up.  With 30 years behind me I have accomplished more than most in my field.  I am proud of the success I have had in my career and is the reason I write this blog.  First and foremost my primary goal as an advocate and experienced adventurer is to write about experiences that will help another person.  With that said someone who knows me well  brought a book to my attention and thought that I would be interested in reading it.  It's called Answers About The Afterlife written by Bob Olson who is the host of afterlifetv.com and a Private Investigator who for 15 years investigated the possibility of there being a life after death.  My eyebrows raised and curiosity got the best of me.

Now, as a spiritual person who has wind chimes hanging off of the patio roof and a library full of read books about life after death and near death experiences including Life Before Life by Jim B. Tucker, Return To Life  also written by Jim B. Tucker, Proof Of Heaven written by a neurosurgeon Dr. Eben Alexander M.D. who wrote about his near death experience, To Heaven And Back written by Dr. Mary C. Neal, MD who wrote about her near death experience,  Journey Of Souls by Dr. Michael Newton, PhD, and Destiny Of Souls also by Dr, Michael Newton, PhD who is a regression therapist and documented hundreds of his patient sessions and compiled common experiences into these books.  I was fascinated with all of these books and those I did not mention.  I read books written by medical doctors because like an Investigator they require their diagnosis to be seen under a microscope and not merely by suggestion or instinct.  I would have a better understanding by our common skepticism by not believing something without some type of proof. Speaking of proof I am also a huge fan of the mini series Proof that can be seen on TNT about a medical doctor who had a near death experience and has been hired by a man with a terminal disease to find proof of life after death.  I have also seen all of the episodes of The Ghost Within My Child that tells the true stories of families who have experienced their very young children claiming to have lived before providing detailed information including names, addresses, and dates from their previous lives.  Dr. Jim B. Tucker along with Dr. Ian Stevenson would take similar stories and conduct very in depth investigations in order to rule the claim of the child to be true or false.  This also includes the story and movie seen in theaters Heaven Is For Real about a four year old boy from a small town in Nebraska who allegedly died momentarily while suffering from a ruptured appendix.  The movie was  based on the book written by his Pastor father Todd Burpo with Lynn Vincent.  I have also watched Theresa Caputo of the Long Island Medium and Rosie Cepero from Angels Among Us both shows on television that demonstrate their claimed abilities to connect with loved ones who have crossed over.  I have been to mediums, psychics, and a channeler who have all claimed to be the real deal.  Some were clearly not and some were convincing enough to be considered the real deal.  It is not my job to decide who is real and who is not nor do I care to spend the time to do so.  I do enjoy sitting back and letting everyone else do the hard work while I can simply pick up a book of a person whom I consider realistic with skepticism and learn from them.

Needless to say I am extremely curious about life after death and have been exploring this possibility for a long time but certainly not as in depth as Mr. Olson.  As a seasoned investigator I know the tools and resources that are available to our profession and I know how the mind of an investigator works.  Without going into great detail about my experience I invite you to read this blog that contains cases I have worked on that will clue you in to my experience including criminal, missing children, and skip tracing cases, that is if you care to see my background.  When I read on the back of Bob Olson's book that he is a former skeptic and PI like myself I wondered what skills and resources he was able to use to investigate the afterlife to become convincing enough to write a book that I have seen many compliment.  I am not judging nor challenging this book whatsoever.  I say it's about time one of our own can use their skills to show people that there is enough evidence to consider that life after death can exist.

I am excited about this book and look forward to getting started and will blog about my thoughts as I do what investigators do best, analyze.  And, here we go........page VII Dedication...........

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Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Inmate #281129 Formerly Known As Jodi Arias

PHOTO: This undated booking photo provided by the Arizona Department of Corrections shows Jodi Arias. This is #281129 formerly known as #Jodi Arias. There are not as many characters in her new name compared to her old name but I am sure it will take her no time to memorize it and no doubt it will take less time to write.  

Inmate #281129 has the characteristics of a Sociopath and reminds me of the multiple time convicted criminal that perpetrated me and my family in 1999.  It was his sixth or seventh time behind bars and although the prosecuting attorney was asking for over 50 years he got away with 15.  After my incident I researched and studied his behavior and concluded that he was indeed a Sociopath.  A Sociopath is one who lacks the super ego part of their personality (id, ego, super ego makes up the personality).  They lack the ability to feel remorse, regret, and guilt therefore does not feel their actions are wrong.  They often believe their own lies as they tend to be compulsive liars having the ability to tell a lie without feeling guilt, and are also known to be narcissistic which according to Google.com means having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. # Inmate #281129 has displayed this characteristic in many instances and showed much enthusiasm before, during, and after media interviews.  She too ignored the evidence shown during the trial and stuck to her story claiming to be a victim of a nice, decent, and normal guy who caused no harm to others.  I am sure she believed her own story.  Her speech to the judge on her earthly judgement day was clearly her desire to have the last word as she spoke with anger in her voice making sure the family knew that her victim #Travis Alexander was still conscience and alive right before she slit his throat.  Her display of anger in front of #Judge Stephens while making a last attempt to defend herself against the truth was probably the same anger Travis Alexander saw the day she decided to end his life.  

All you have to do is go to the Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/Justice4Travis?fref=nf (#The State vs Jodi Arias (nka inmate #281129)-Travis Alexander Murder Trial and see how many people support the victim in the case.  What we do not understand is how inmate #281129 has supporters that clearly defend her actions of stabbing a person over 25 times, shooting him in the head and slitting his throat.  What does that say about the supporters?  They can claim their personal experience of domestic abuse and feel inmate #281129 was defending herself but why would she require defending herself against someone who had been stabbed over 25 times and shot in the head?  Why slit his throat unless she was trying to achieve the goal of death?  I cannot understand how inmate #281129 supporters think and why they feel she was justified in her actions but there needs to be a reality check.  Had she felt threatened she could have left.  If she is strong enough to drag a 150 plus pound body from one end of the hall to the other and put him in the shower stall she could have easily gotten away from a person who had multiple stab wounds and obviously had to support himself by leaning on the walls as we saw in the evidence photos.  Her story does not make sense and lacks evidence.  How can she believe her story is believable?  This is how a Sociopath thinks.  

The evidence speaks for itself besides inmate #281129 attempting to destroy evidence and lying her way through an interrogation.  She murdered Travis Alexander in cold blood and it was premeditated.  And, the victims do not stop at the Alexander family and friends but includes inmate #281129 family and friends.  She fooled them good but what mother wouldn't stand by her own flesh and blood if not for anything but support?  I can only imagine the truthful thoughts that have gone through her family minds and trying to make sense of it all and trying to justify her actions.  We do what we have to do to get by and that goes for inmate #281129 family and friends.   Everything she said from the beginning to the end of this entire ordeal has been to cover up, defend her lies, and to attempt to justify her actions in a sickening criminal kind of way.  She had an excuse for everything and in her mind it made sense when in fact she just looked like a fool to everyone who saw the truth but she never gave up.  Typical of a Sociopath.

Did she get what she deserved?  My personal opinion is that the death penalty should not exist but not for reasons you may think.  I am against the death penalty because of the innocent people that die and not for the guilty.  A life behind bars will not be as splendid as she may think as she is still young and will endure no true love or the touch of a man again.  She will be up against her own kind who may or may not be able to manipulate her as she may attempt to them.  She will have to face her own demise as she wakes up every morning wearing the same color clothing, eating the same food, and seeing the same people day and night.  I just pray that she is treated like the criminal that she is and she is punished as she deserves while behind bars.  I hope they strip her of any rights she may have had before of communicating with other inmates, teaching, singing, and drawing but that may be considered cruel and unusual which is against the law.  What is her true punishment?  Even institutionalized people get used to a new normal and try to make the best of it.  Those that were raised in prison tend to try to get back in because that is all they know like the criminal who perpetrated me and my family.  

I would like to see Nurmi interviewed by the media to get his honest take on what really happened.  I know he wanted off the case from the beginning and I can imagine only because he saw her guilt of premeditation. We can believe what we want until he speaks up.  Right?

I had the same experience with my perpetrator in the end.  He too would not admit to any wrongdoing even though the evidence spelled it out.  His behavior suggested that he too was angry that he got caught and that what he did was everyone else's fault.  To this day, 15 years later, he has not apologized nor shown remorse or regret for his actions but continues to make efforts to bully me since his release from prison.  I had to come to the realization that this individual is inhumane, lives by his own rules, and will one day have to stand in front of the almighty judge.  He will one day feel what I felt when he committed his crimes against me.  I maintain my right to freedom of speech to tell my story in the hopes it will help others as so many before me has done.  

You can find my research on the Sociopath on my website http://consumerpi.com/index-2.html.

Here is a link to my story on this blog cherylring.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-criminal-files-greg-berinthe-diary.html

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Sunday, March 29, 2015

Conclusion of Rescue and Recovery Domestic and Emotional Abuse

As promised here is the conclusion of the last domestic case I worked on. 

(The other day I received a phone call from my client who said she was ready to move forward but was she really?)  

She said the words to my voice mail but seemed under the influence of a childhood friend who was with her at the time of the call.  I’d hate think so but it seemed my client was forced to call me and tell me she was ready to move on in order to satisfy the need of her childhood friend’s  to help her get out of a bad situation and my suspicions were confirmed when I returned her phone call leaving a message on her voice mail only to never hear from her again.  It is not my style to impose my services on someone who hires me even though I feel they need the help to move out of a bad situation such as this but to remind the person that I am there for them when and if they need me.  Did I mention my services of coaching, counseling and educating are free of charge? 

The ending result of this case remains to be seen.  My client still harvests her guilt and emotions while stuck in a bad living situation and it will not end until she pulls the plug.  It has to come from her and she has to have closure.  She has to be the one to say goodbye and to make sure the final curtain closes on this relationship otherwise her once live in companion and abuser will forever know that the door remains open.

I will continue to share my future cases and case history in order to help others.  As always the anonymity of those involved will be regarded.